Domestic Abuse show on 3/14/09

On tomorrow's we will have Waneta Dawn author of the book Behind the Hedge and Hannah of the blog Emotional Abuse and your faith talking about domestic abuse. We will also have James Walker and Pastor Author Thompson talking about this topic.

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Domestic Abuse

I will be talking about domestic abuse on my radio show this Saturday. It is my hope that you will join me and perhaps in the process we can help somebody.

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Mr. Steele confesses he is inarticulate to Rush!

On yesterday Michael Steele issued an apology to Rush Limbaugh, The apology included the following statement: My intent was not to go after Rush - I have enormous respect for Rush Limbaugh," Steele said. "I was maybe a little bit inarticulate. ... There was no attempt on my part to diminish his voice or his leadership."


What is sad about this is not the apology, that is appalling! The sad part is the content of the apology. This is an educated man declaring himself inarticulate to another man who has less formal education than he. But not only that, Mr. Steele is apologizing to a man who spews hate against another black man every day, I don’t know how Mr. Steele is going to look at himself in the mirror every day, better still how is going to look at his kids?

The Republicans Need another star!

The Republican party has tried to put two people out to counter the OBAMA phenomenon. Each time it has fallen short first Alaska Governor Sarah Palin and now Governor Bobby Jindal. Last night Governor Jindal attempted to give a response to President Obama’s Congressional address. After listening to President’s wonderful address many people were disappointed with the New Orleans Governor’s response. I wonder who the Republicans will try to make their next superstar? They better do a better job 2012 is right around the corner.

A little too early for the 2012 campaign

In my opinion President Obama showed his toughness today. After the Governor of Louisiana, Bobby Jindal and the Governor of South Carolina, Mark Sanford went on Meet the Press yesterday to un-officially start their 2012 Presidential campaigns, President Obama checked them for doing so by stating “there will be plenty of time for campaigning later”.

It is very interesting to me that these Republican Governors refuse to take money that will help their constituents but in the next few years they will raise millions of dollars to run for re-election and higher office. As Governor Schwarzenegger said yesterday he is a Governor first and a Republican second and it is his duty to take care of the people of his state. He needs to talk to his fellow Republican Governors and remind them of that. But perhaps the voters of their states will do that for him.

I do not have the answers but I have some advice.

I wish I had the answer to this whole dialogue on how to prevent domestic violence. Every since the allegations about Chris Brown hitting Rihanna it seems that it is all everyone wants to talk about.
I do know one thing this “cause of the month “will be swept under the rug until the next celebrity fiasco. However those who are going thru domestic violence right now do not have the advantage of sweeping it under the rug and as sure as I write this blog someone right now is frightened for his or her life because a lover/ wife/husband/friend is on their way home. I am a survivor of domestic abuse I was never hit but I was verbally abused. Things were said to me that still hurt me to this day, but I thank God and I got thur it and i got our of it , everyone is not so lucky.

Recently I was on a panel about emotional abuse and was asked if I could give young women five pieces of advice before entering into a relationship with someone what would it be. Here goes:


1) Be secure in yourself-Of course not all of us are 100% sure all of time. But it is important to know who you and who you belong to. God entrusted your heart to you take care of it, it is important to do so. Proverbs 4:23Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.

2) When people tell you who they are BELIEVE THEM –Maya Angelou. When I went out with my ex on the second date he told me and I quote “ I have a whole dark side and you don’t bring that out in me.” HMMMMMM! I should have gotten out of the car and walked home even thourgh I was in Atlantic City. So often folks tell on themselves, and they are usually telling the truth.

3) If he or she talks bad about every person they have ever been with take that as a hint. The only common denominator In all of those relationships is them. Hence the problem

4) If that person goes around telling you how great they are all the time and have to put other folks down to do so run. If they are so great their actions will dictate that.

5) If that person shows any side of anger to ther kids, thier family, co-workers etc… take that as a sign that you are next. Behavior all behavior is consistent.

Those are my rules I tell young sisters and brothers all the time And believe me it is not just what I preach it is what practice.